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Uzi
Asian Toddler
United Kingdom
91 Posts
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Posted - 09 Jul 2004 : 19:55:15
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wotz ur views abt polygamy guyz, do u fink its okay to have two wifz or not. i knw the answer from boyz side but girls wot do u have to say about dis?
laterz.... |
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rudegyal
Asian Moderator
United Kingdom
1492 Posts
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Posted - 09 Jul 2004 : 20:14:48
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nope i dnt fink its acceptable.. i know from islam it says its ok.. but i know there is no way i cud share my guy wit another woman , no matter how well he treated me.. i jus wudnt b able to do it. n if he did decide to marry.. im not sure i wud b able to stay wit him unfortunately..
'if you love something, set it free..if it doesn't come back, hunt it down and kill it!' |
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Uzi
Asian Toddler
United Kingdom
91 Posts
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Posted - 09 Jul 2004 : 20:19:59
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dats a typical ansr we can get it from grlz
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rudegyal
Asian Moderator
United Kingdom
1492 Posts
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Posted - 09 Jul 2004 : 20:36:53
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well wut u expect us to say!! lolz.. find me one gal who will agree to polygamy in this day n age.. i will b amazed!
'if you love something, set it free..if it doesn't come back, hunt it down and kill it!' |
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babygal
Super Duper Asian
United Kingdom
2698 Posts
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Posted - 09 Jul 2004 : 22:46:24
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i totally agree wid u rudey!!! i can understand y da guys wud b in favour, bt wots in it 4 da grls apart from havin 2 share evryfing!!! if da guy dus decide 2 marry agen, den he probs dusn't luv da grl...so deres no point dem bein togetha if it causes pain.
Am A GuD gYal CORRUPTED by bad TiNg$! |
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rudegyal
Asian Moderator
United Kingdom
1492 Posts
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Posted - 10 Jul 2004 : 01:09:43
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either that... or the bloke is jus too hard to satisfy!! hehe..
'if you love something, set it free..if it doesn't come back, hunt it down and kill it!' |
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Fabia
Senior Asian
United Kingdom
1999 Posts
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Posted - 10 Jul 2004 : 12:01:46
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true that...
However, i've been asked this question many times by a few brothers and sisters, and yes it would be hard to accept that your husband might want to re-marry and so on, but i don't know what you might be thinking but if the sisters are hating me sorry but this is my honest opinion and i guess i wouldn't mind.. as long as he treats us equally in respect and love etc...
Simply because Islam allows it, and so will i................ well there you go,my view about polygamy
"He who kneels before Almighty Allah swt; can stand before anyone!"
"O Allah, let our last days be the best days of our life and our last deeds be the best deeds, and let the best day be the day we meet You."
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Uzi
Asian Toddler
United Kingdom
91 Posts
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Posted - 10 Jul 2004 : 20:26:21
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fabia ur 100% r8, as long girlz get treated same it doesn`t matter dats wot islam says aswell,
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Fabia
Senior Asian
United Kingdom
1999 Posts
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Posted - 10 Jul 2004 : 20:43:58
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Asalaamah
I get where the sisters are coming from, coz in this day and age, you get ppl playing with each other alot, and just finding that one person for you, and know that he considers to re-marry, and it puts doubts in sisters minds, you can comprehend where there coming from, and as a sister myself i respect that, much love, respect & appreciation for you all...
But back in the day when our Beloved Nabi (saw) was alive, not much was happening, i mean double-dating and commiting adultery/fornication etc etc, as today it occurs alot, astagfirullah... hence these doubts are common (plz correct me if im wrong by all means...)
Moreover, having imaan does give you strength.... and Alhamdulillah, over the years my imaan has strenthened and i am willing as long as i know it would make my husband content...
Do you get what i mean............. Jazzakallahkahir for reading.......... xxx
"He who kneels before Almighty Allah swt; can stand before anyone!"
"O Allah, let our last days be the best days of our life and our last deeds be the best deeds, and let the best day be the day we meet You."
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Amina
Super Duper Asian
United Kingdom
4008 Posts
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Posted - 12 Jul 2004 : 12:07:55
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i dont agree.
u shud b ur hubbyz 1st and only wife.
REMEMBA D PHRASE
"mera patha sirf mera hai"
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Fabia
Senior Asian
United Kingdom
1999 Posts
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Posted - 12 Jul 2004 : 12:12:45
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damn my hindi is bad.... no wonder i dont bother with bollywood films....lolz but i get what you mean sis,and respect to you
"He who kneels before Almighty Allah swt; can stand before anyone!"
"O Allah, let our last days be the best days of our life and our last deeds be the best deeds, and let the best day be the day we meet You."
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Amina
Super Duper Asian
United Kingdom
4008 Posts
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Posted - 12 Jul 2004 : 17:00:24
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cool
live life 2 d ful xtent |
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rudegyal
Asian Moderator
United Kingdom
1492 Posts
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Posted - 12 Jul 2004 : 20:11:17
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yep amina.. i soo agree!!
'if you love something, set it free..if it doesn't come back, hunt it down and kill it!' |
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Lutonian
Asian Moderator
United Kingdom
5389 Posts
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Posted - 12 Jul 2004 : 21:47:45
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i can understand how girls might *feel* as tho they cant accept it - that it seems some kind of strange idea - (its only strange because of the environment we have grown up in). but surely if ur a muslim and u believe in god and u believe he is ur creator, u also believe he knows wats best for u? and therefore in his laws he makes it halal for a man 2 marry up 2 4 (with certain conditions) then u would accept this as trust that allah knos this is the best thing for you? i mean who is any1 to turn around and say, 'well i kno god says this and i dont dispute that he said this. but i feel that he is wrong or i just dont like wat he said and therefore i will do actions according to my whim and/or desire'
i really dont think i would take a second wife simply cos 1 is enough for me. but i can understand that some men might want more and are capable of being just and capable of providing the needs of two or more wives at the same time then i certainly dont see a problem with that.
just to re-iterate, the hukm on polygamy is clear and in textual evidence (i.e. the Quran). No muslim (or non-muslim even) can question the accuracy or correctness of the Quran and therefore i think there really is no debate on the issue.
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Fabia
Senior Asian
United Kingdom
1999 Posts
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Posted - 12 Jul 2004 : 21:52:56
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very true indeed alhamdulillah br
"He who kneels before Almighty Allah swt; can stand before anyone!"
"O Allah, let our last days be the best days of our life and our last deeds be the best deeds, and let the best day be the day we meet You."
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sweet_as_suga
Super Duper Asian
United Kingdom
4167 Posts
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Posted - 14 Jul 2004 : 19:41:01
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yeh lutonian for once i agree!!!
.•:*¨`*:•.mi§§iÑ ù I§ Likè BrèâthiÑ- I jù§t çâÑ't §tôp.•:*´¨*:•. |
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Lutonian
Asian Moderator
United Kingdom
5389 Posts
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Posted - 14 Jul 2004 : 20:20:57
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u know u always do sweet (even wen u deny it, deep down u agree wiv me)
2 Wrongs Dont Make A Right. But 3 Lefts Do |
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sweet_as_suga
Super Duper Asian
United Kingdom
4167 Posts
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Posted - 15 Jul 2004 : 19:17:11
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lolz datz wat i LIKE u to thnk!!!!
.•:*¨`*:•.mi§§iÑ ù I§ Likè BrèâthiÑ- I jù§t çâÑ't §tôp.•:*´¨*:•. |
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Lutonian
Asian Moderator
United Kingdom
5389 Posts
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Posted - 15 Jul 2004 : 20:08:12
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wat i like to think its not the issue here. its wat i KNOW
I Just Lay It Out...For Yo' All To Play It Out... |
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sweet_as_suga
Super Duper Asian
United Kingdom
4167 Posts
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Posted - 15 Jul 2004 : 20:19:51
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stop usin the same sentence on diff. threads!!!
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Lutonian
Asian Moderator
United Kingdom
5389 Posts
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Posted - 15 Jul 2004 : 20:20:56
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there is no quota on the amount of times 1 can use for the same sentence...
I Just Lay It Out...For Yo' All To Play It Out... |
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sweet_as_suga
Super Duper Asian
United Kingdom
4167 Posts
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Posted - 15 Jul 2004 : 21:43:21
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no but der shud be for borin ppl lyk u lolz
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Lutonian
Asian Moderator
United Kingdom
5389 Posts
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Posted - 15 Jul 2004 : 23:41:30
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wateva sweet!
I Just Lay It Out...For Yo' All To Play It Out... |
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Amina
Super Duper Asian
United Kingdom
4008 Posts
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Posted - 16 Jul 2004 : 15:58:27
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shud wives av more den 2 husband 2? i dont c hubby acceptin dat
live life 2 d ful xtent |
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Lutonian
Asian Moderator
United Kingdom
5389 Posts
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Posted - 16 Jul 2004 : 21:35:50
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well if ur creator tells u its not acceptable then surely that is sufficient for you 2 accept it?
I Just Lay It Out...For Yo' All To Play It Out... |
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Fabia
Senior Asian
United Kingdom
1999 Posts
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Posted - 16 Jul 2004 : 21:40:28
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true...
"He who kneels before Almighty Allah swt; can stand before anyone!"
"O Allah, let our last days be the best days of our life and our last deeds be the best deeds, and let the best day be the day we meet You."
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xxx_metz_xxx
Asian Moderator
United Kingdom
738 Posts
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Posted - 17 Jul 2004 : 21:51:13
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im wid rudegyal on this one once again...i know for a fact i wouldn't be able to handle my husband being wid sum1 else other than me.
but if its ok 4 men to marry more than one woman...hw wud they feel if gyals married more than 1 man?!!!! there u go...ANSWER THAT 1 GUYS!!!!
¤·.¸.·°Líl Mí$$ Gígglé$°·.¸.·¤
Whén í cú smílé...ít mákés ít áll wórthwhílé!!!
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sweet_as_suga
Super Duper Asian
United Kingdom
4167 Posts
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Posted - 18 Jul 2004 : 20:37:24
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tru say metz i fink its ok if ur not wiv more than wife.....lyk wen she dies or u divorce or summin
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Amina
Super Duper Asian
United Kingdom
4008 Posts
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Posted - 18 Jul 2004 : 21:29:21
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quote:
Originally posted by xxx_metz_xxx
im wid rudegyal on this one once again...i know for a fact i wouldn't be able to handle my husband being wid sum1 else other than me.
but if its ok 4 men to marry more than one woman...hw wud they feel if gyals married more than 1 man?!!!! there u go...ANSWER THAT 1 GUYS!!!!
¤·.¸.·°Líl Mí$$ Gígglé$°·.¸.·¤
exactly my point.
live life 2 d ful xtent
Whén í cú smílé...ít mákés ít áll wórthwhílé!!!
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Uzi
Asian Toddler
United Kingdom
91 Posts
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Posted - 20 Jul 2004 : 17:24:05
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nice answr 2 amina, lutonian
laterz.... |
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Amina
Super Duper Asian
United Kingdom
4008 Posts
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Posted - 24 Jul 2004 : 12:47:24
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if u say so
live life 2 d ful xtent |
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